A week after I had served him the papers, I had second thoughts. I wanted to try separation instead of divorce, and work things out. For the sake of my kid and because for some perverted reasons that I still can't figure out, I still had feelings for him. I started remembering the good in our marriage and my heart softened.

I asked if he wanted a reconciliation and he flat out refused me. It was only about a month later that I suspected something fishy as he didn't sound like himself. He kept asking me to wish him well and said that he wished me well.

I finally caught on and demanded to know who the OW was. He admitted but wouldn't tell me who it was. He said that they had only started the affair after he was served with the divorce papers. I suspected that it was a colleague and he finally fessed up.

You can call me Dory/ Grl.

As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"

It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.