I understand part of the wanting to know, how much you need to know for your peace of mind is up to you.
For me I needed confirmation that I wasn't crazed and that xh2 regardless of what he said was actually cheating with ow pa then I could drop the rope completely.
I needed to know some of the coincidentally on purpose happenings were on his head not mine. That xh2 was pursiting the ow.
His motives might not be what you think tho. He might get information to confront his w, this might bite you.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26