Newbie here - unsure of what to do

[Sotto]

Hi Klassic, I just wanted to welcome you to the forum. It is good to see someone who has cheated posting here and I'm pleased to see the warm welcome you have received from others. I think it takes courage for posting as you have and I applaud you for it.

As you say, if your H and you decide to try and repair things, there is much to overcome. But it is possible and people do it. It is promising that your H tells you he still loves you. However, he will be in a lot of pain and may not be able to decide to recommit just yet.

That's okay, because you have some areas that you need to work on and I'm glad you are getting the support you need. You mentioned that others (your H, your therapist) are trying to help, but you're not sure they can handle things. Is that a fear for you, that no-one will be up to that job, and what will happen then?

Can you tell us a little more about the issues from your past that you believe have contributed to your current mental heath and infidelity my friend?

Stick with us, and if you want an example of someone who has travelled this difficult road and come out the other side, it's Sandi.

Take care xx