Thanks TX. In that case I have a question: How can I be less easy going about giving her the divorce? There's not really anything I can do in terms of speed bumps since she's moved out and doesn't rely on me for anything.
The last time we were at this point was in '06 when she had just told me about her 3-year PA. But our kids were young, she didn't have the financial ability to leave, etc. I did make it more difficult for the D. She stuck around, went through the motions in MC, but nothing really changed on her side. It seems as though she was just waiting for the kids to be older and for her independent financial situation/job to get better. However, she remained in the house and that was a huge advantage for me.
Question 1: if she just went through the motions, faked me out so to speak, the first go-round, and has at the very least had 2 EAs in the past 3 years, that would mean that despite my positive progress (which she often acknowledges), she may have always been planning her getaway all these years. Now there is apparently no motivating factor for her (kids are adults now, she is finanically independent, etc.), still doesn't seem to value me after 20 years. Since she has moved out and doesn't need me for money or anything, what can I actually do to be 'less easy' about the D?
