Hi Scrant, I am sorry that you are here. It must be a really tough day for you.

4 years without sex? Perhaps this is a new start that is needed in your marriage? OM/boss sounds like a creep. It will likely end in due time.

You mentioned that you do not have a close circle of friends besides those friends with your W. Why is this? Is this something that you can work on?

You have my best wishes.

Me-54 yrs; W: 50 yrs
4 kids- D: 22,20,19; S:15
"Trial" Divorce: 04/14 - 6/14
Separated: 06/2013- divorced 08/2016

“The strongest of all warriors are these two — Time and Patience.” War and Peace