Whatever is going on with her co-worker, I have no proof of whether it's physical or not. I don't think it is and based on what I've seen they have broken off contact. In fact, I personally had a chat with the guy and he seems to have shut it down because he has a lot to lose. Of course, there is no way for me to know that for sure...and it doesn't really matter at this point.
while I have no intention of lying to the boys about my preference to keep working things out if she were willing, she is going to tell the boys that she's unhappy with me, that our problems can't be worked out, and that she's through. All of that is true from her perspective. The EA is a symptom; it's not the problem, and she's unwilling to solve the actual problem.
I don't see how my telling the boys about the recent EA which may not even be occurring now helps anyone.
