I have responded with, "Thanks, I won't be sharing info with them they don't need or that might hurt them or you." If that continues from her side I'm thinking about just responding with 'OK' or perhaps not at all?
She does not intend being honest with them. So, are you going to lie to them in order to cover up her affair? How do you think your sons will feel about how their dad just gave up. They deserve the truth.
Why not just tell them that the whole story is not being told? She is in an affair, and you are going to sit there and let your two grown sons buy her B.S.?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
