E, I think your wife wanting to go do something alone and spend time talking is a good thing. My only advice is to not read into things. Take it slow. Try to remain objective and detached. Try to listen and validate her perspective more than express and/or defend yours. Show that you can listen and understand what she is feeling and I think that will help her reestablish trust and see you more as the man she fell in love with. Remember, you need to approach these situations "As if" you are a team and working toward the same goal, but not so much that you push too hard or too quickly.
Thank you, Cole. Your advice is spot-on. For a while I made the mistake of pushing too hard and too quickly. Note: that is NOT what one should do in R situations...
One of my issues is that I read into things too much. My counselor has been helping me with that a good bit - also with the pushy bit. I have been working on all of that and think that I am in a better place because of it. Lessons learned. Time will only tell what her intentions are - and I have learned to look at things from an outsider's viewpoint. Not easy, because I know that I am an emotional driven person. That's next week's topic!
Thank you again for stopping and saying hello!
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
