I need help figuring this out PLEASE! I'm so frustrated right now! So Monday I made plans for D8 to go to my moms today (Friday) as I work Saturday! Tuesday he calls me saying he wants her Saturday mid morning I work so after arguing and hanging up on each other I let him know I cancelled plans with my mom I will drop her off at 8 pm. I knew he would have plans to go out as he had no kids but figures having her would be more important! So anyways he agrees to take her at 8 Friday on Tuesday! This morning at 8 am he texts me asking if my mom can watch her he will come get her after d7s soccer game because he doesn't have his kids! I'm so mad I swear steam came out of my ears! Yes my own fault for saying she will come on a night I know he would want to go out and has no other kids! BUT he did agree and waited for this morning before even discussing it! I sent him a message stating I would not ask them as I asked them and already cancelled for him if he is unable to watch her she can come Saturday evening when they are back from the orchard! He then asked what time she would be there! Obviously I was angry and not thinking! I did contact my mom again to see if she would take her as that is what d8 would want to do anyways is go there instead of his house! Now my real question is how can I state the boundary that we made plans Tuesday I do not appreciate being contacted while at work the day of to change plans and I find it disappointing angering and disgusting that going out with his gf is more important than sticking to plans I have already told d8 about!
What I would like to say is: I do not appreciate making plans with you on Tuesday you agreeing to said plans and then contact of me the morning of asking to changes those plans! I also feel frustrated you asked for D8 I rearranged the plans I had for her to accommodate you and then you again ask me to change plans simply so u can go out! I feel the kids should come before you going out! I have made plans with my mom to pick her up from school you need to pick up her up at xxxxx at 830 am before d7's soccer game!
