Time to let go.....How? (2)

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I wouldn't go.

But your W should not be telling them "you don't want to go". I feel this would make you look bad to the kids. I have often taken the lead on situations like this and told our D that it's not that I don't want to go with her but I have work I have to do and we'll do something fun when she returns. She's only 4 but understands that I have to work to do. I'm not sure if this is the best approach but it's better than saying "Daddy doesn't want to go or Mommy doesn't want Daddy to go."