My goals are twofold. Firstly, just be myself and have fun . Why not? Secondly, listen to STBX and attempt to better understand her perspective at this time. I am open to the idea of trying again but I'm also comfortable with this R being over too.
I agree that OM needs to be out of the picture for STBX and I to ever give it a go again. If the journey ever takes us to that crossroad, obviously no contact with OM is a must. However, I don't want to put the cart before the horse here. Like you said, baby steps. Plus, my intel is from my d4. When I asked d4 more time specific questions, she was less than reliable in her answers.
Right now, I feel it's most important to place all my focus on things I can control, like getting my priorities in order and my head on straight. Mind reading would be a giant mistake right now. Plus, like asitis mentioned, it's entirely possible that STBX could be on the verge of another BD. If I get get back to DB basics, I'll be best equipped for whatever the future holds. Either way it ends up, I know I'll be ok.
Me:35 W:30 D:4 S:1 Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA In House Separation: 01/14/15 W moves out: 04/05/15 I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15 W serves D papers: 06/19/15 Mediation: 09/16/15 D final: 12/01/15
