Thanks roiste. You've been so supportive of me it is unbelievable.
So I was playing guitar and when finished I went for a bottle of water. Walked past wife and screen was instantly turned away.
I got mad. I walked up to room and closed the door to cool off. I could not. Wife came up 15 mins later too see what was going on. She knew I was not ok. I said that the phone screen issue made me upset, that her turning it away from me to hide what was being texted was incredibly disrespectful. In went right into the inappropriate relationship and me being very uncomfortable.with it.
Two hours later we finished talking. Wife was pissed and I felt horrible.z
I do not want to discuss our conversation on open forums. She ultimately chose to give up her friend for the sake of our marriage. Ultimately I trust her position that she felt there was nothing there.
All of my apprehension about our marriage recovery and our future has been hung up with this guy. All of the other wonderful things that I've described were truly genuine, except for this guy...why do I feel guilty about me needing for him to be cut away from my life?
This has been a past wound with moving out here and our house renovation with lack of friends and family in our area.
What can I do to help with this, what can I do to offer her thanks for her understanding my position in this, and as appreciation for her continued working on our marriage. It feels like I have wounded my wife again and no matter what I don't ever want that.
