You can talk to friends and family. You don't seem able to write much in your post, so you need to have someone.
The advice about friends/family was b/c sometimes the LBH starts getting too much advice from too many sources and it can confuse the H or cause him to feel pressure. However, if you need someone, turn to the one you trust the most.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
