Abuse can paralyse fins. This post examines how abuse affects belief in self with a knock on effect in confidence. Primarily the ability to grow and develop fins and a business.
Research into ACES (adverse childhood experiences) shows that certain childhood experiences are predictive of health and emotional problems later in life. Those childhood messages can affect business and finances.
Self belief affects how we perceive self worth. Diminish self worth and there is a knock on effect. Adult abuse can affect fins, destroy wealth and value through spending and waste, childhood abuse can get in the way of building value initially.
Beliefs
1. Feelings are just feelings they need not define us. Feelings about money are universal and beliefs about money can be key to self never standing. A belief that 'a rich man cannot go to heaven (eye of the needle) can prevent wealth' or a belief that 'money makes the world go round' may have the opposite belief.
2. Money is a good pathway to self-knowledge. Of itself it has no value as a measurement, it is the sense of sufficient that is indicative of well being. Someone who always wants more and has no enjoyment of the now can be as damaged by fake beliefs as someone who thinks life must be a struggle.
3. Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) can be predictive of adult outcomes. The wealth of our peers at school or family may cause damage.
4. We don’t have to be stuck in our current beliefs. Who you have been can change. It’s so easy to stay stuck where you’ve been. That’s why it helps to work with someone who can guide you. Fins are important to discuss with IC, most accountants can manage numbers but not fins. Blockage on fins may need specialist IC.
5. Many people, no matter what their income, have money issues. Money can be a mechanism you are using to express emotions formed in childhood. It’s very hard to put yourself out there when, as a child, you had to protect yourself from abuse.
6. The easiest way to find a solution to an uncomfortable problem is to find out what’s going on emotionally, it is the same with money, it is a measure of how we value ourselves, our ability to treat ourselves well.
7. Adverse Childhood Experiences or Adult Abuse, there’s a real reason for behaviours, and change is possible.
8. If underlying sadness is always there, then this will reflect in the way we value ourselves. Honesty and authenticity can change our expression around money. By looking at childhood experiences and being honest emotions, it allows me to feel more connected to other people and helps build a business.
9. Adverse Childhood Experiences and abuses make us more apt to push people away or ourselves , which perpetrates aloneness, which can hinder wealth creation. In order to tract money, you have to let other people touch you.
10. As feelings clear and beliefs change then “bad” things can stop happening which creates shift. Shift brings change and wealth.
11. The Identity Factor – or your resistance to altering your identity as an abused child or adult may create issues around finances. Our life story of poverty consciousness attracts disappating partners rather than wealth creating ones.
12. A poverty story written over and over again can mean we never have enough despite having wealth. Why do lottery winners become broke? At some point A decision to create a different story, this may mean new life partners with healthier attitudes to wealth.
13. Ask yourself what would it feel like to have a great self-image. How we look, dress and take care of ourselves affects our standing in our own eyes. It affects our bearing, posture and self belief.
15. The first step is to acknowledge the story and belief. Accept the position. In the same way that stepping on the scalles can help establish our weight evaluating the Fin position can help with accepting our current status.
Abuse can create poverty or prosperity consciousness.
