Got V2 of the divorce papers, XW has made some minor amends but left stuff in that's simply not true. And for those who read my early posts you know how ready I am to blame myself.
I sent her a long text after I got the revised papers. There was an issue in that I accidentally pressed send half way through so there is a bit that makes no sense. The general summary of what I said is: - thanks for the changes - I'm disappointed about what she said - I know she believes it but I believe some if it is entirely false - I also no it doesn't matter because the truth is she stopped loving me years ago - her affair was one if the worst things I've experienced but it taught me a lot - I know that's not why she left - I only ever wanted her to be happy and if OM1 provides that for her then I wish her well - that we will never be friends but we need to get on to protect the kids from the bitterness that divorce brings and that more understanding will probably help. - its clear that she never understood me - I'd like to get to the point were our first interpretation of the other person is positive - I know its a while down the road but once the divorce is finalised hopefully it will get easier between us - and that regardless of what I believe us true, I know she felt hurt by me and I'm sorry for that.
I absolutely don't expect a response (except maybe her to pass it to her solicitor) but I wanted to say some of that for me.
It does still stun me how different our versions of the same events were, but we are where we are.
Anyway, aside from that things are pretty good. Very busy, mainly work though, but some good socially bits.
Definitely missing being in a relationship these days but there isn't much opportunity to do anything about that - I'm certainly no RD!
Thanks for reading and have a good day
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
