A new thread for Eye-Tie

[EyeTie]

Eyetie

I'm not making any judgement. ( if I found out my husband was with other women I would feel and probably react very similar as you). But my question is, do you think there is a difference between how you view your marriage right now and how many of the wayward spouses view their marriages?

My WW has a very skewed view on our marriage. She acts like it was all horrible, from point A to B. Honestly, every other year she would talk about wanting a divorce. We would work on things, then a year or so later she would say the same thing. When she hit me with it back in December, I figured it was just another false flag. BUT every so often she will talk about our relationship in a positive light, but mostly it's negative. I on the other hand do NOT act like that. Sure we had bad times, but it wasn't always bad.

Is there anything your wife would be able to do to win you back? If she implemented the dbing techniques herself would that work on you?

Meh, I am not sure. She can try the techniques but it would mean she would have to admit some faults. I have forgiven her, but at the end of the day, it just doesn't sound like something I would want to do. I gave her a list a long time ago and she has done a few things on the list, but in the end, I doubt she will. She rarely if ever will admit she is the one with the problem.

The major difference I see is that your wife was unfaithful and many of the LBS on this board were not. So that must be taken into consideration of course. But obviously us LBS did something to hurt WAS enought to make them leave marriages with children right?

I disagree. I think the problem is that relationships take work, they are hard. I may not have been the best husband in the world, but at the end of the day I do not think it was ever as bad as she claims it was. WAS's usually walk due to some outside encouragement. Rarely is it "I've had all I can take", reading peoples welcome threads almost always scream "WAS HAVING AN AFFAIR" and they tend to not want to believe it until things are past the breaking point.