ITie is doing ok, but is it really DB? Going out and getting some isn't really dbing right? Unless it is, in which case, I got some calls to make.
While my situation isn't really DB, DB got me to this point. I never wanted to lose my wife, but through DB I found a new life that I am happy with. I have new hobbies, friends and a new girl in my life. 10 months ago, I thought my life was over, I thought that I would never get better. It took me a long time to get here, but I am happier now than I have been in years.
There comes a point where you have to say am I done waiting? Am I going to risk not taking the next opportunity to meet a np?
It was in reality 2 years almost when I met my np, from when h started the a as best as I can work out.
Was I done putting my intimate life on hold for something that may never happen? Yeap by then we'll and truely.
Could things be different with xh2, I doubt it.
For the following reasons He cannot accept his wrongs or contributions Doesn't take respsonabilty Lies Still with ow Has not contacted ever. Refused to acknowledge r. Talked disrespectfully via L only just months ago He is not changing his patterns of behiavours
So would you put your life and chance at a np on hold at 45?
That is exactly it! My WW and I lived a bit on the humble side of life, she got into a career that took off and went from making 50K to 110K a year very quickly. Once she got that raise, she started treating EVERYONE beneath her. Like they didn't deserve to be treated the same.
Over the last 10 months, I have heard from people that she claims that...
1. I faked cancer (even though several people were around) 2. That I was physically abusive (Never happened) 3. That I was emotionally abusive (I never with held affection). 4. That I was mentally abusive (this is from a person who would throw a tantrum about dinner not being what she wanted). 5. That I was the one having the affair (even though everyone has pretty much figured it out). 6. That I was a horrible father (yet she texts me often telling me how great of a father I am). 7. That I am a sociopath (I don't even know where to begin with this one). 8. That I was abusive to my children (they will even tell her that they prefer me to her). 9. That I was lazy (I worked but it was mostly part time, it was cheaper for us.) 10. Pretty much you name it, she has said it.
Now, I know her well enough to know that she has painted herself into a corner with people. Because if she ever says that she wants to get back together, several people will list the reasons above as to why she shouldn't. It would mean she would lose face. Even back in during the ILYBNILY talk, she said "What would people say if we got back together", which at the time caught me off guard. Now it all makes sense to me.
I waited, prayed and cried long enough for her. I realize that I don't want her back, I liked the idea of it more than the reality. No one should go through what I went through with her, I feel bad for the next guy she is dating. He will find out soon enough.
Now, as for my current girlfriend, yes, I said girlfriend, she is incredible. Completely opposite of my WW. It took me a while to get comfortable with her, it took me a while to get comfortable of the idea of starting over. But I am very happy I did.
Me: 38 W: 32 S10 D6 T: 10 (02/2004) M: 7 (12/2007) Separation 02/2015 OM confirmed 01/2015, D mentioned 12/2014 D finalized 9/2016