Yes, I did tell him she could use my phone, iPad etc as much as she wants, he said that it wasn't the same. He seemed to understand though. Just said ok and to let me know when I think she's old enough for an iPod Touch.
After you mentioned Jack Canfield, I went by Barnes & Noble to look at his books. They weren't in stock, but in stead I came across Breaking the Habit Being Yourself by Dr Joe Dispenza. It's about how our mind affects our reality and being stuck in certain patterns. New brain vs old brain, like you called it. Anyway, I just started reading it, but I really like it and I wanted to thank you for "Leading" me to it.
I am trying to be a better person. I want to become the best version of myself. It is hard to be around him though. I feel like I'm back to square one. I so badly want to reach out and touch him, hug him and knowing he's with her...argghhhh...