Might as well get started.

[Abe31]

Okay, well, I know no one has gotten too involved in my stuff yet but my L got a response from my wife and my PO that I need advice on.

First, my wife is willing to let me see the kids. That is huge. I haven't seen them in 7 months and I am dying to see them and spend some time with them. The letter will go out from my L next week but I've been assured that all sides have already agreed to me seeing them for lunch. I'm crying from a mixture of joy and despair.

Second, and this is the big one. I have been told that my wife does not want to R. I have been told that she doesn't want to talk to me for a long time. I have agreed with and validated this back to my wife through the L. BUT and bit BUT, and this is the key, I'm being asked to send an apology letter for: "how my actions have caused distress to my wife."

Now, at this point I'm guessing at what I'm supposed to apologize for but the word "remorse" has come up a couple times. And when I read the word remorse I'm thinking my wife is upset about infidelity. I've never cheated on my wife but she's probably thinking I was having an EA. I can admit I probably crossed the line into flirting too much with OWs. No, no one in particular. But my wife and I can both get jealous.

So, I have to write an apology letter. Is there some resources or advice for this? This feels like the first step back to some sort of communication.