Mahhhty, I learned that I am not yet fully done with owning up to my side of the problem. I learned that I have more soul searching to do, I should be able to say (if only to myself) the things you did, the part about trivializing her perspective. I did that, I trivialized H's perspective, but in my heart I still believe his perspective was/is trivial. I know I should have listened better, I do listen better, and I validate and show outward signs of respect, but, to be honest, every time he talks about our problems I inwardly cringe at the stupidity of what he is saying. I am nowhere near as compassionate and self aware as you are. Not yet anyway.
