Thank you all so much for your supportive and wise feedback. I feel a lot better now that I"m thinking of the financial stuff as just business. Had a good meeting with my L and we are moving ahead with drafting a proposal. Stbx is doing the same.
And as I work through all my other feelings, I'm still struggling find that balance between making HIS life easier for him, and doing things that are in my D's best interest. Because sometimes it feels as though he's not really dealing with the consequences. And as I write that, I realize it sounds pretty lame.
But, let me think out loud for a bit, and I really do welcome some outside perspectives.
D4 is off from school on Monday. Since it's H's day, he arranged for her to go to a camp that day. This was a great step forward-- he took the initiative to follow our parenting agreement! I will take her to the camp in the morning, and then stbx MIL will pick her up and spend the afternoon with her. Stbx has asked me if his mom can use my home as her "base" that day, because he thinks my place "is best."
I'm not a huge fan of the idea. MIL has not reached out to me in months. We used to be quite close. I don't hear a word from her now. Last time she came over here, she simply used her key to walk right in; didn't even knock! Um...
I mean, really? You don't think your D and your own mom can spend an afternoon in your home? Why not? Why don't you have toys and supplies for her? I just don't get it.
I know some of you would say "Just say yes. It's best for your D and you can show MIL how wonderful you are." But it just bugs me. Argh.
