Photoka's new thread (this one spelled correctly.)

[asitis]

It's not you. It's all about him. I wouldn't be all that available to him. That is the reality he is choosing, and you need to protect yourself emotionally. Let him be icy. It doesn't matter to you. You get that he is angry. Not that you agree with it, but he wants a D, so it is understandable that he is angry. His issue, not you and yours.

When we start acting attractive and stop pursuing, we often get a reaction we don't like. It is one of fear, which manifests as anger and coldness. They are scared about having any positive feelings towards you. They are scared that it is temporary and if they risk and make themselves vulnerable you will revert to "normal." They are scared that they aren't loveable and that you moving forward means that you may leave them. This can lead to a childish, you can't leave me if I leave you first reaction. It takes time and a steady hand to let them settle down after you clearly change course.

They have to recognize it, accept that it really is the new you, and then adjust to the feelings all that triggers in them. Just be patient, and stay the course. The less you focus on how to make it easier for him to be around you and connect, the less likely that he will change his tune.