H has started an affair 2

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Ggrass, that was my first reaction too. Take that event serious and take action to prevent another one. Boundaries only mean something if the other person doesn't resort to using physical force. Clearly, he showed that boundaries are meaningless to him to the point he would use force to get what he wanted. The only response that would have any meaning is swift response that would adequately make H not want to do that ever again. For me it would have been either legal action and arrest or humiliation in front of his family where they would provide protection. But I know it is hard to want to take such actions against someone you hope to reconcile with someday. Possibly using peppers pray next before escalation to extreme measures is adequate. I hope so for her safety and that of her children.