I will likely be D'd in 2 weeks and i know it will be tough for me emotionally. My WW has not shown any signs of remorse or wanting to R. Any advice or tips on making it through that?
Keep up with the DB stuff. GAL is super important. Don't put your life on a timeline, things have to run their course on their own. You cannot control the situation or what is happening, just work on you.
Drop the rope and walk away. Were there times I wanted to reach out to the XW, yes, but I didn't and I am glad I didn't. I was hurting, but it was non of her business. There were times when she was reaching out to me and I just ignored them. They hurt bad, but I kept my resolve.
One night she sent a text that just said "awake?" Good thing I wasn't. I would have talked with her but I don't think the time was right. I was 6 or 8 weeks before she started to pursue me more. I think it would have been a little bit of bait and she would have gotten what she needed emotionally if I was nice to her.
Just do you and look ahead. It is a good time to figure out who you are, who you want to be, and how you are going to do it.
Keep your chin up. It is dark now, but there is light at the end of the tunnel. I was doing tons better with my life before the reconciliation. I was moving forward with my life without her and it felt good. I still hold that confidence, but it was only gained by facing the pain and doing the work.
M:34 XW:34 Together: 10y Living: 9y Married: 7y Son:6 Son:4 Separated: 12/28/13 Piecing: 5/2/14 Separated 2nd: 10/16/14 W filed, but pulled it: 11/5/14 papers served: 1/27/15 D final: 3/6/15
