Time to let go.....How? (2)

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i know it is hard to do while living together.

Here is the dilemma i have been facing with GAL during the past 6 months. I am at work all day then i get home and want to spend time with the kids, and they want to spend time with me. I have always been the one cooking dinner for them. If not the w feeds them whatever is easy for her. that actually drives me nuts. Then homework baths and bedtime for them shortly there after. My S4 is very attached to me and likes me to get him to sleep.
By doing this thought i am just enabling and helping my W. two days a week she teaches a kids dance class at 5pm, then she goes to the gym after and gets home around 730. byt this time the kids are taken care of and getting ready for bed in about 45 minor so. Meanwhile she comes home and eats while she stares at her phone then goes and takes care of herself to get ready for bed. It really doesnt bother me what she does anymore, but it just leaves no time for me and GAl. I really like the time with my kids and i know they do as well.

then other evenings she will go to the gym in the evening also. I guess i need to know my kids will be fine without me once or twice a week and do things for me. It is just hard knowing the split custody is right around the corner.

any thoughts?

she is definitely taking advantage of you. My D4 is very attached to me too and it's hard not coming home to her every night but I know GAL-ing is important for me and to the R of the M therefore important for D4 too. In my M I have typically been the one getting D4 ready for bed too. What I've had to do is tell WW several days in advance that I have plans Thursday and Saturday night. I've been taking at least one week day and one weekend day per week to GAL even if it is to not come home from work and just stop by a friends house to watch football. I don't tell WW what I'm doing only that I won't be home til later.
Another thing our mediator suggested yesterday is that we start our parenting responsibility plan even when living in the same house. I will be responsible for D4 Sun/Mon/Tue WW responsible Wed/Thur/Fri and we alternate every other Saturday.