LBH w/ a WW trying to save my M

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You're getting ready for your next girlfriend." I said "please don't make assumptions about how I feel or what I'm thinking."

Your answer was good. When she says things like this, you don't have to reply. Just look at her and then look away. Just let her think you are getting ready for the next one. She needs to worry about the fact she's putting you out on the market again. Don't assure her she's the only one.

Hi Sandi! Thank you so much for your quick reply.
Definitely! This is where her insane jealousy and imagination work to my benefit. I'll let her think I'm "shopping" of course without actually shopping. I have a friend who wants me to meet a very attractive, and 10 years younger, friend of his. This would drive my WW absolutely crazy but I told him I'd have to hold off. I desire to reconcile my M, I don't want to create any additional obstacles or lead his friend on.
I actually caught WW rummaging through my car Tuesday night. I know she was looking for evidence of me cheating.

She then went into her old routine about how I ended our marriage when I was unfaithful...... I told her I didn't have to listen to her mouth anymore and I walked away.

Excellent!

Thank you

I returned a couple minutes later and told her "We can't change the past. We can effect today and the future with our choices. All of this is her choice.

Ut oh! Was this wrong?

I asked her to type up something that would protect me if I were to decide to move out.

Who did you ask?

The mediator

It also included each of us seeing IC's a minimum of 1x week. WW agreed to see her IC 2x month.

Doesn't mean she'll actually go. What happens if she doesn't?

It would be legally binding so I'm guessing she would be in contempt. But it doesn't matter I'm not going to agree to any of it other than the parenting plan. She needs to see the IC bc she believes she needs to not bc I want her to. My heart is in the right place but my motives and tactics are wrong.

I was trying to manipulate my WW to see her IC more frequently and elicit emotions from her.

Yep!

You are getting there. Keep learning and growing. You are going to be great!

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