Did the counselor mean in-house separation? B/c if you are being there for her, spending time with her, doing activities as a family, being her friend.........just being available all around, what defines the separation?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Just got in for a quick walk to clear my head before work. I am really feeling down today. I want this marriage to work so bad. It's like no matter what, I get this dread feeling that it's over. For 10 years she has been my entire life. Maybe I am just over thinking stuff again. It's just so hard to think that our R has gotten to this point because for all that time she has been an awesome wife. I miss her so much and want to tell her so, but I know now isn't the time. Maybe this separation and LRT stuff will really work. How do I continue?
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
You remind me of me a lot actually. I really struggled and had to take anti-depressants and sleep meds.
My mom told me something when I was going through my sitch that really resonated with me, maybe it will help you. I repeated this quote everyday like it was my mantra.
"Don't let your fear be bigger than your faith" -Thorn's Mom