I am looking for support with dealing with this loss/trauma. This has hit me pretty hard. I feel lost and hopeless. I am trying to remain strong but it's hard
In my opinion, now is not the time to be making grand proclamations about your willingness for reconciliation. In fact, I wouldnt worry about it at all. Why you are in this highly turbulent emotional state, you may make decisions or take actions or say things that you will ultimately come to regret.
My advice is to first focus on stabilizing and healing you. The basic steps, as I understand it are: 1) Review the person you are and decide on the person you want to become 2) Become that person 3) Begin to consider your next relationship - whether with your wife or someone else.
Honestly, the hows and the whys arent nearly as important as the WHATs, As in, WHAT are you going to do now?
