Quote: I think they are too stubborn to admit they made a mistake!
Sometimes I definitely think this too... that there is a fair amount of face-saving thinking happening here. I think this because H has said plenty o'times that he made a mistake, made poor choices, created a nightmare, lost things that really mattered to him, had a good life with me, etc., etc.
Maybe my earlier post sounded a bit harsh, though I don't mean it to. It's just that while I think I've weaned myself off the fear and trauma that caused my worst DBing moments, I don't have much desire to spend any time on the path he is on either-- unless he is walking in another direction.
There is an interesting article in O Magazine about love being "all in our heads" this month. Kind of the quantum physics approach to DB, I thought-- that how we think about our partners and our R affects how we experience them, how we act, and how they act too.
