On the one hand I can see the pattern. I can see the benefit of understanding this if it allows you to confront some of your inner demons that compelled you to stay busy to avoid discomfort. I can see how it can be empowering to realize you can make positive changes for yourself and connect better with those around you.
On the other hand I completely reject the underlying premise which is that somehow these two women were right to leave the old PP because you were defective and couldn't meet their emotional needs.
I am so sick of this notion that we must go through a thousand rebirths and become reincarnated as the Buddha before we can have a good relationship. To me a good relationship is one in which you accept each other's positives and negatives. No one is perfect, and the idea that someone deserves better than the person they were given from God to partner with through better or worse is the work of the devil.
There, I feel better now. Keep driving when it makes sense to drive, keep growing when it makes sense to grow.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
