It is frustrating. So it has been at least 2 months, first coming back and forth and then completely residing at my mothers and taking the children with me. She feels some kind of way because currently my mother has not ask me to contribute understanding that I am working on paying my debt, so that I can move out and obtain my own place to which to spend the time with the kids. She throws this in my face constantly, how my mother is paying for X,Y, and Z. I am like that's not completely true as I do help out at home and buy the things the kids need and consume; but I shouldn't be penalize for having a support system that is willing to help me in such a bad time.
I just feel that she wants to cake eat, I understand that my children are at the house, but that's 50% of the time, so by the same token wouldn't that mean that she should pay for my utilities? She is feeling some kind of way because this week she is tight, and that's mostly because she hasn't been managing her money well. I would buy groceries, etc for the kids during this time if need be of course.
I don't want to be rude to her, so have tried to make it more about being fair to everyone involved, but the truth is that she decided this, she chose to not be in the relationship, asked me to move out to my mother's home, she stated that she would take over the bills, mortgage, and maintenance. Now that things are tight, and is sinking in that she might not be able to afford the life she has been leading till now, she wants to guilt me into feeling like I am not doing enough.
Sorry, did I mentioned that I am a bit angry at her and this situation. I have not express this to her, working through my emotions.
Thank you for your time
M: 34 W: 33 S: 7 S: 14 months BD: 6/2015 Separation: 6/2015 Back and Forth between Home and Moms
