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here is my previous post

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well it has been over 4 weeks and i still dont know anything from my wife and daughters. They are still living in a women shelter. I havent called or txt since the first week. I know that she is trying to get a job and a place to live since thats what her mom told me. She also told me to move on since thats what she is doing too. Her mom aint helping.There has never been any abuse or anything in the family. I havent been there for emotionally which is the reason she left. I understand her and i would have left too, since i was neglected when i was a child (4yrs old). I told her i feel her pain and i understood her extreme measures. I have started to go to church and planning a men retreat at the end of october. I miss her so much. Even when i try to stay busy be with friends or just got out , everything reminds me of her. We have been together for 4 years married for 1 year and 8 months. I miss my family so much. Even though i accept my mistakes she doesnt own up to hers. She pressured me to get a second job in order to make ends meet. I am only human.


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MARRIED-1YR 11months
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divorce filed 1/6/15
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Keep praying angel and make those changes!


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this coming NOV 14 there is a couples retreat from our church. I just hope she accepts the invitation. The main guy is willing to pay for everything. But maybe it isnt a good idea to even mention this to her?


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Angel:

No pressure right now.

Look at it from her perspective. She wants some space, she wants to be able to support herself, she's trying. Give her some time to get her self-respect back.

In the mean time I suggest you contact a L and get some sort of visitation worked out so you can see your children.


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I feel for you not being able to see your kids frown Hang in there; things will get better

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well i found out she is searching and going through my facebook. She accidentally liked one of my post and immediately disliked it but i notice my notification went off. Kind of funny. What does this mean? Does she want me back? I havent talked to her in over 4 weeks. I miss her so much.


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Originally Posted By: angel r
well i found out she is searching and going through my facebook. She accidentally liked one of my post and immediately disliked it but i notice my notification went off. Kind of funny. What does this mean? Does she want me back? I havent talked to her in over 4 weeks. I miss her so much.


My W unfriended me and then a week ;ater confronted me about some random thing I had posted (completely unrelated to her). It doesnt mean she cares about you or wants you back. It just means shes still attached. Dont worry about it and keep moving forward.

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today i found out that she had an appointment with a therapist last week and now next week she has an appointment with a psychiatric. The reason i know is because we had both synced our google calendars together so we both knew about dentist,dr's appointments , etc. Should i be worried she is going to a psychiatric? Did i drive her crazy by not being there emotionally for her? This is all provided by the women shelter. You think these ppl will tell he to just move on.


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Originally Posted By: angel r
today i found out that she had an appointment with a therapist last week and now next week she has an appointment with a psychiatric. The reason i know is because we had both synced our google calendars together so we both knew about dentist,dr's appointments , etc. Should i be worried she is going to a psychiatric? Did i drive her crazy by not being there emotionally for her? This is all provided by the women shelter. You think these ppl will tell he to just move on.


I wouldn't worry about it. She is trying to figure out things in her life and frankly, that is a good thing. I wish my WW would do the same thing. Just keep Galing and keep your head on.


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It's a good thing that she is getting help, but make sure you document it and let your L know. It could be important in custody considerations.

Do not tell her that you know.

And no, you did not drive her crazy. The behavior you have described sounds troubling and I guess someone realized it.

I am surprised that you're not doing more to get access to your children.


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3 adult blended kids
EA 11/13, BD1 6/14
PA fall 14, BD2 2/15
Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15
Separated 4/16
WH moved OW in 5/16
Divorced 6/15/17
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