I just saw this as a rough patch and once the kids were thru college things would get better. I guess I just looked ahead and ignored what I didn't want to see because that would be failure on my part.
So you were going to sit and do nothing for 18, or so, years? I sure hope you've changed your mind at that ^^^ working out for ya.
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I still live with my wife we get along well sleep in the same bed no talk of divorce or selling the house or anything like that.
Is she intimate with you? Does she kiss you on the mouth? I mean, really kiss you?
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The issue is she does not want a relationship or at least the one we had. Maybe she is willing to sacrifice these years of her life for the sake of the children and when they are older then it will be the physical separation and all will be over.
Maybe you need to know what she's willing to do. If she wanted a better R with you, don't you believe she attitude and actions would let you know? Don't you believe she would have told you she wanted a better R, when she dropped the bomb?
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I am easily irritated I go quite if I don’t get my way I don’t finish what I’ve started I didn’t spend enough time with my kids I didn’t spend enough time with my wife
What actions have you done to change those things you listed?
How old are your kids now?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
