She exaggerated our dog situation and made it look like I was harming our dog on purpose to punish her. It hurt me. I went to talk to her to understand why she would paint me to be so evil. She knows I spoil the dog like no other and I would never do such a thing. She began crying apologized for the wrong text and blamed me for being more cold a distant so she didn't know who I was becoming.
Learn from this experience! She will twist and turn EVERYTHING and make you out to be the bad guy. Yes, you are her enemy.....in her eyes, you are. She validates herself by making you appear worse, thinking it will get her new friends & OM's emotional support. If she said that about you and the dog, just imagine what she says about you and her.
So, she is aware that you know about the OM. Has she had any consequences for her A with OM? Since she knows that you know, it is even more vital to show a strong stance, and to have strong boundaries in place.
Have you read the link on boundaries? GAL, detaching, and boundaries are the three most important areas right now.
What are you doing those three nights a week you spend with her?
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I still can't believe how cold, mean, and rude she has become. I do not react when she does this to me, I remain calm, or I ignore her. She will not pull me into any arguments, but damn does it burn.
She is not your best friend! She is cheating on you! Anyone can be your friend, and anyone can be her friend. Only one person can be the spouse! If she doesn't respect you as her H, are you just meekly going to demote yourself to be friends?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
