Bopping in to let U know I'm still listening and learning from ya -- you're an inspiration.
Wanna let you know that another "old timer" (separated from H over 2.5 years now) is kickin' in your corner. (I post in Hopefulness.)
So: here are tiny pink roses from my newly-blooming rosevine, tied with a satin ribbon.
You sound like me -- recovering! You sound pretty independent these days -- way to go!
Me too. I re-did the house, the yard, the wardrobe -- without H's input -- and I'm mostly happy.
I've learned to manage the pain, when it comes. And it's not as intense as it was. I've moved on.
Still have tears, ya know?
But it's miraculous how letting my H go has allowed him to grow -- allowed him to stumble and make an utter fool of himself -- and he IS coming around to making amends -- in his own way.
Maybe your H is, too?
Right now I'm into allowing MYSELF the same room. I'm allowed to make a few stupid mistakes and grow. I am truly free -- (well not yet divorced, but free from my emotional ADDICTION to my H and our drama).
Because of my commitment to DB-ing I have been BEHAVING LIKE a clear-headed, loving, mostly jovial, mostly upbeat person. Try to be light-hearted. Try to laugh a lot. Keep the focus on my own magic & dreams, ya know?
(Of course some days I can only do it cuz "the show must go on" and backstage have a sob. You know.)
So altogether now -- let's take a bow and drink in the applause. Good show!
Now I better stop before I hijack any more of your thread. Just want to offer my support and say I'm proud of you.
Head high -- you're a BIG winner. And an inspiration. Remember, U are not alone.
