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Just want to clarify that I'm not a professional, I led a non-profit organization for divorced families for many years, so that's where my experience is from.

There are a couple of things that can be done:
1) ask for mandatory co-parenting classes - this is usually supported by the courts so not a difficult wish to get granted. Offering to pay for them increases the likelihood.

2) Ask for a right of first refusal-clause in the custody agreement. That will usually state something to mean that if one parent has to leave the children with a caretaker, the other parent has the right to get them before anyone else can be asked. That should also be pretty straight-forward, but remember - it goes both ways!

And read up on Parental Alienation. It is a concept that is being increasingly accepted, even in Family Court.