WTF??, indeed! I think the emotion is a tip-off too. I just really don't believe that my H thinks he's doing the right thing, but who knows.
My C seems to think the same thing, but said that answering my question with any kind of real answer is going to require that H ask himself the questions he's been doing all of this to avoid, so not to hold my breath... That it isn't "do I want to be married" but about why he is unhappy in himself, what are his values and what he is looking for by pursuing things that are bringing him and others plenty of pain.
Whatever.
It's that ruby slippers thing again. Yes, they have been on Hs feet this whole damn time. At least I have learned to see mine. That's something big that has come from this for me.
About the money thing-- when H fixed my computer last fall, he could not take a credit card for the parts, so he said "pay him whenever", which we'd dropped when he was going to move home. Now he doesn't want to be reimbursed. I will have a tiny tax refund with which to pay. I think I may pay him anyway.
