Quote: I don't think the objective is to resign to taking back a broken man, but to believe what is broke will be fixed again! As a once "broken" man myself, I can say to you ... We have the technology! If H's choose to, they can become six-million dollar men!
You're quite right, of course. I have no intentions of living with a man who wants to be broken... my H is quite capable of being the $6 million man, maybe even $12 million. He knows his way around the technology too, LOL.
Quote: It does make me ponder if H is acting more on gut feelings out of fear than from mental reasoning?
My feelings too. I'll try not to think about it though... as we all know, fear is the killer as well as the crazymaker!
B, sometimes there is some truth in that WAS talk about not feeling loved. A lot of the time their interpretations stem, I think, from their own issues and past, but when H and I talked about it, which we have at length, he was able to see where he was misunderstanding and making assumptions and I was able to see the places where I was not giving in his LLs but in mine... and we were able to see some places where other things (lifestyle, medical issues) played a role in how he was feeling.
For us, those were some great conversations and my occasionally reminding H in words and being consistent in my actions regarding this has usually been received in the way it's meant. Timing is really critical though.
Sorry you had to step around the genitalia bashing, guys. But Betsey did make an exception for you all. Besides, we're fine with the genitalia, really. It's the other parts...
