You are welcome, sir. It seems like my advice is contradictory to what every one else is saying and I am fine with that. Just providing another view point.
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She then said that she thinks she would always question her decision.
That statement tells me that the door is open and that she is giving you the chance to walk through it. But it also seems, that due to the stubbornness, that it may also close rather quickly if you don't recognize it and act. And by acting, I mean actually saying it rather than hints.
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A few days after the mediation when STBX was expressing reluctance about D, I swung for the fence, took the lead a bit, and offered alternate resolutions for R.
Swung for the fence? Did you actually say let's do this or just give a subtle hint that you are open to the R? There is a huge difference in the two. Some people have to be hit over the head and be told bluntly and openly. And some just want to hear it. Maybe she does.
The question is, since the door is obviously open and she is asking you to walk through it - will you take a leap of faith? Or just let things continue and hope that she will get over her stubbornness and take the leap herself? Which one will lead to biggest regret?
Those are questions only you can answer. Maybe my advice is wrong - and I have been wrong many times before. But it just seems to me that she is asking - sort of holding her hand out to see if you will take it. But I don't know her and her intentions. All I know is what you have provided. Sometimes you just have to take a leap of faith.
I just think that if even part of a person wants to save their marriage, then they should do all they could and exhaust all avenues. Maybe even swallow a bit of their own pride and walk through the open door. Just sayin.
Last edited by Evil_E; 10/07/1512:21 PM.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
