Quote: he might be shy of responding because he feels he would be obligated to respond to the big question out there. He is likely in his cave. Give him time to come out and don't be waiting by the door (email about insurance $).
Seattle, do you mean I shouldn't have sent the email? Hmmm. What should I do? H can pay his insurance bill by online transfer, no contact with me required. And H knows I literally do not have the money to cover it (comes out of my check) unless I stop paying my own basic bills-- that is why we made the agreement we did. I certainly wouldn't care if I actually had the money somewhere. So I'm not sure how to handle this... he can be in the cave, certainly he needs that sometimes as I've (yes, too slowly) learned.
Quote: I have found that it is when you detach from the drama of our H, be their friend and become independent, that makes them start looking at us as wonder women!
I think this is really true. This is exactly what worked for me to draw H back too... but I'm so stumped with the rest. Have to say, though, this has always puzzled me a bit too because I have always been very independent--even all through our M-- and I never stopped that. It is one of the things that attracted H and he has mentioned it drew him home too... but it's also one of the things that got us here. I think my H might like independence in theory more than in reality... and I might be a little "too" independent in some ways.
But then, my H is in many ways a lot more like Venus than Mars these days, except for the cave bit. And I am the one prone to proposing solutions instead of listening to the feelings.
Hey SS! You're right about that. This girl has a pretty good life going, really. Plus I'm learning to play poker on Friday...
