Don't Look Back 3

[Sotto]

Hi Sunny, the job sounds great and I hope it works out for you. Whilst you might prefer not to have to work, it sounds like a worthwhile venture and you have something good to offer them too. Hopefully it will be rewarding for you. I also work for a large charitable trust and it is good to be part of an organisation that 'improves lives.'

As for your STBX, I understand what you're saying. Though it sounds as though your R with him is pretty good all things considered, which is great for your kids. I agree about OW. I find it much easier to practice forgiveness towards H. I have a bit of a block about OW.

In my case, she is rather dysfunctional and this R and her last were both affairs that ended M's with kids. Plus she cheated on the last guy with my H. So, none of that is a person I would want to be. I try and think of her as a little girl who was once sad as there will be some difficult history that led to this I guess.

What about the Duck. Do you sense the same? I agree with you that I would find it much easier to accept a 'new woman' than one who has been central in a big betrayal of me. Who knows, the OW may change for both of us, otherwise we'll need to find a healthy way to live with the existing one. I'm lucky in that H and I have no kids together, and I never have to see her again unless I choose to.

Sounds like you are in a pretty good place anyway Sunny & take care xx