H has started an affair 2

[Sotto]

Hi Anna, I'm sorry to hear about your FIL. I hope he's doing okay after his fall. It's good that you get along well with SIL and that H has been okay with you.

Something will lie behind his quietness at night and it is probably to do with R with OW. Perhaps he is contrite in the mornings, but in the evenings building up to seeing OW and the silence is part of that. Best not to wonder too much or read anything into that.....though I know I just tried to!

I also thing the pepper spray is a good idea. I wouldn't tell your H about it though - just use it if you need to stop him in his tracks!

I can understand your tiredness and you already know that wondering how long this will go on won't serve you well. As you wisely say, just focus on today and tomorrow and the rest will unfold in time as all sitches do. Now, tell us what you are doing by way of self-care and GAL just now my friend...

xx