Losers: Wayward Wife & LRT (9)

[asitis]

So you've made your intentions clear that you are open to reconciliation. Fine, not it is her decision, pride or not. As long as she knows that you are open to letting her back in the door to see where things might lead, it won't be pride that will likely be the blocking factor IMHO.

When you have your next mediation, making introducing D to OM an agenda item. You need to have an agreement on what the ground rules you will both operate under for the well being of your D. This is not interfering w/ the A, it is about your child. The mediator will be able to educate you on what the recommended approach is on this topic. If you have to do the mandatory training, you'll get this, but not all states require divorcing couples w/ kids to go through this. Generally, don't introduce child to a romantic partner for a year after D is final. And then, don't introduce until both parties have chosen to date each other exclusively. It is best then to notify other spouse to discuss that this introduction will take place, and discuss how to do it in a way that is best for your D.

On the "date," you know the drill: lots of active listening & validation, take nothing personally and don't react to anything as if it is a big deal, and try to be friendly like the two business partners you are at this point. Not dating, not H & W, not even friends. Just friendly but detached.