Time to let go.....How? (2)

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I am really interested to get some thoughts on how to move forward with lrt when she moves. Do I go as dark as possible with dealing with the kids?

I believe the sooner she has a more realistic view of her life without you in it, the better. As long as you play the friend, handyman, escort, babysitter, etc., the longer it will take her to see. That's one reason to make yourself unavailable to her. Some women are so use to their H's being there for whatever they need, they think it will continue after the D. They need a reality shock.

So how do I go about this right now while we are still under the same roof? Then when she moves how do act then? I do have moments when I feel ok about the separation then other times I feel I am going to collapse. I know the actions I take need to be for me but I am having a hard time doing that currently. When I do I feel good and can tell she is agitated with me doing things for myself. Or she is just thinking more of the usual.