After the last posts I think you should rename the topic to Ghost Bashing Working You Over....
But seriously G, after all the advice given and your latest actions and comments I still cannot see any improvement from the first post. My real question is what do you expect to get out of here with the continuous posts about the same things over and over again?
Your new comments now are that you are scared of being alone. I get that, I think that most do as we have been there too. What do you plan on doing about it?
Another of your comments about the physical appearance. Ok, so you look like Danny devito, big deal. You mentioned you will be going to a gim or did so and then stopped. You think your wife will leave you because you are overweight and bald? Maybe.. but what are you going to do about it?
I am overweight, have less hair than I would like, and not really a brad pitt look alike. I got off my butt, started working out 5 days a week for 2 hours, improved my diet and bought stuff from a nutrition shop, changed my hair, changed my wardrobe (not necessarily buying a truck load of clothes, just not throwing on the first thing i laid my hands on), wear cologne everyday when I go out and began listening to modern day music which I also enjoy in the gim. Result is I am now a more confident and healthier person inside and out. Staying at home doesnt help, believe me been there done that. Going to the gim wont get your W back. It will get you back. BTW if you do go, dont be like those guys you see walking around with mismatched clothes and brown socks up to their calves and with little to no effort. Think rocky and eye of the tiger. You will really feel better. The trade off is that you also get to admire the ornithology to take your mind off things.
You handed over to her so much power and control you really are in the s**t.
Here we talk about GAL & Detach, etc. I noticed I started making progress when i started to live. Enjoy life with all my faults and imperfections. Accept who I am. How can I expect my W to accept me or respect me if I dont accept or respect myself? We are not Calvin Klein models but we are who we are and each have something unique to offer to make our partner happy. And whether it be the same partner or a new one, wear it with pride.
TBH I really am running out of things to say.
Dont defend your lack of action with validations, dont hide behind insecurities. At this minute with your present attitude what do you have new to offer to your W to make her change her mind? Since BD what have you been working on and developing that you can bring to the table? Hopes and dreams? promises you will change? She has already had that and she quit.
This is where i go back to an earlier post, I get the impression you dont want it bad enough. You want the easy way out. You have not one piece of something new to offer but want her to come back. Why should she? Would you?
I think i can understand your W and dont think it was the chores or kids, I think it was she needed someone to stand beside her not behind her. Someone to take over when she faltered. Maybe when she was sad she also had to be the shoulder to cry on. When she fell and looked up maybe she expected to see her saviour with the arm stretched out to pick her up. Maybe she just needed a man, her husband but had to end up being both.
Its a guess and Ill probably get b**ch slapped by the members but if I am right, what she is seeing now is the same guy who if she gives a chance will continue with his old ways because in all honesty G i have not seen from you any new ways from which to fall back from. Also, if wanting out is not motivation enough for you to change, what is?
G, I said it before.... stop posting and talking. Start doing.
Actions really do speak louder than words.
peace bro and dont hate me I have nothing but love for you.
