So go as dark as possible as soon as possible? How about packing and helping her move. I have heard a few success stories when this was done and the h was a rock. I could be way off base and not in the same situation.

M 37
W 34

T 12
M 8
D 7
S 4

Need break 4/12/15
W no ring 7/7/15

Separate room 4/12/15
Separate living suggested 8/15
W moved out 11/1/15