Hi Jim and RD, thanks for looking in on me and sorry not to reply sooner. It's been a busy couple of days away at work this week and I'm WFH tomorrow, then yoga in the evening....all busy busy. Had a good day today and did a piece of work my boss was pleased with, so I'm happy about that.
Goals for the coming year....hmm. Some of them are necessity goals and are about getting my housing and financials stabilised.
1. Settle finances - probably through D already underway. But if that stalls, I'll either suggest formal S or file for D myself. I need to keep moving towards resolving finances though.
2. Get out of the rental market. This one needs finances to have been resolved and I'll buy my own place. Possibly the flat I'm renting now if my landlord wants to sell. If not, something else.
3. Get more stable employment. At the moment my fixed term contract runs to end March and I really need to secure permanent work. Hopefully it will be where I am now, working with my old chums.
So, those three are all about stabilisation, which I need to do.
Now, for the ones that are all about me....
1. I want to complete the divorce recovery workshop this autumn (already booked this.) 2. I want to treat myself to a nice car when we've settled finances (maybe a nice black rangerover like RD....not a basic model though ) 3. I want to have a nice little holiday somewhere next year. Maybe a little spa break or cruise with a girlfriend. 4. I want to laugh more and be a bit silly. I have a funny and silly new friend and she is very good for me right now.. 5. I want to reach a place where I feel healed and ready to leave H behind, wishing him well and letting go of my anger.
That's all I can think of for now. TBH, for me so much has changed in the past 15 months, I'll be glad for my life just to settle and for me to feel happy in myself. I don't have a huge bucket list - though I will keep 'accepting all invites' and pushing the boundaries with GAL.
I'm going to a GALA dinner with work on Friday. It's a lovely event - an awards evening where the efforts of local volunteers are recognised. I'm looking forward to meeting new people and wearing a pretty dress. I've had a couple of nice little chats with the attractive guy at work. I've decided straight up and friendly is the way to go - but I've teased him once or twice too. TBH, I'm not really overthinking that one. If there is some interest there, we may strike up a friendship, who knows?
Anyway, have a lovely evening my friends xx
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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
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