Losers: Wayward Wife & LRT (9)

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You need to know what you want. Do you want to R? If so, get your head on straight prior to the conversation.

You see your wife flip-flopping. She's spending time with you and your assumption is she's still spending time with OM.

Again, ask her what she wants to discuss with you prior to the meeting. Like a meeting agenda. That way, you know what the starting point is. You'll then have to be fluid and see where the conversation goes.

Be in the moment.
Take extra time to process what she says.
Respond with your ultimate goal in mind.
Let her come to you.

Abe,
Great response. Well thought out. Appreciate it.

I am open to R under the right conditions.

As far as what she wants to discuss, STBX didn't propose it as a meeting to really discuss anything. It came off as more of a night to just hang out. It seemed almost like a quasi-date. As in, "Hey, I'm about to D you but I'm still conflicted. Let's hang out just the two of us. Maybe it'll help me make up my mind."

However, I know to expect a tough conversation, so I like Mahhhty's recommendation to prepare for the worst. I think the goal of the night will be to get STBX talking about her feelings. I will need to expertly listen and validate, while providing guidance when necessary.

I don't plan to bring up OM unless the conversation goes there.

My short term goal is for STBX to simply delay D. My long term goal would be to just attempt R, under the right conditions of course.