I'm glad you had a nice weekend, it is always great to meet up with old friends!
I agree with hold'n, i would get yourself and Atty, and totally remove yourself from the D issue, that way you can say, next time H brings it up "I really don't know....why don't you get your Atty to contact mine and see where we're at." I really think you should have an atty that you trust, you need to protect your interests and at least they can do it in an unemotional way.
I can't stand that your H has turned everything on tis head, but don't let him get away with it. Remember you have control of YOU and cannot control HIM, BUT you can make him accountable for his actions. Regardless of what is going on for him, you deserve to be treated with the respect of at least an answer as to the 'why', after all, he asked you to marry him. It took both of you to do that, your still married, so you are at least entitled to an explaination.
In the meantime, i would just get on with what your doing, let H wonder about YOU for a while. Might be worth checking out what 180's you can do. (Such as getting really peeved at him next time he mentions the D stuff!!) I don't know, but it sounds like it is definatly time for a change!
YOU are doing great and i guess you need to ask your self if you still want the broken man anyway!!!
My friend always says:
A Woman's Rule of Thumb: If it has tires or testicles, you're going to have trouble with it.
