The M started to spiral as our sex life became non-existent. I was so unhappy with the lack of intimacy that I began to consistently look to volunteer for work trips, go on more guys trips than i should have, and just overall removed myself somewhat from her. NOW, thats not to say i was hardly around, we spent a lot of time together.
She also has significant resentment built up for how our data (pre marriage) relationship was. I moved for work, and put my career success as a top priority.
At this point I could stay home, pay her attention, and quit going out with friends. I get it, but at this point I think that will just push her away more. I mean she consistently talks to the OM but denies it, and is unwilling to consider any actions to regain my trust. Specifically open phone and email, look for new job (she could easily find a new job).
